Standing in Your Worth: Don’t Settle for Less Than You Deserve!
It sounds simple, doesn’t it? We all say we value ourselves, yet there’s often something holding us back from demanding what we truly deserve. That damn pull to conform, avoid conflict, and not be seen as “too much.”
But here’s the thing
You’re not too much. Your effort, your communication, your presence — none of it is “too much.” The real red flag isn’t your engagement; it’s the lack of reciprocation from the other side. And that, my friend, is the real issue. Whether it’s a glaring sign someone is toxic or a quieter indication that they’re just not that into you, it’s still a red flag.
We love to trick ourselves into seeing red flags as something else entirely because we want that situation or person to work out so badly. We bend, justify, and ignore, hoping it’ll eventually turn into what we dream of.
But listen…
I’m not here to tell you that what you want is inherently wrong for you. I’m here to say that the most important thing you should want is for life to respect your worth.
Now, here’s the tricky part.
What we deserve isn’t always straightforward. Who defines that? Is it the universe, fate, God? Or maybe some other external factor?
Nope. It’s you. Always you.
You set the standard. You create the boundaries. You define the bar for what you deserve, and life follows that lead. If you don’t believe you deserve the best, you’re already selling yourself short.
So why do we settle for less? Why is it so hard to hold firm to our worth?
Honestly, I can’t answer that for everyone, but I can share my perspective. I’ve studied people — organizational behavior, leadership strategies — and while I once thought I’d be a therapist, people got on my nerves too much for that! So, here I am, writing this instead. I’m not a therapist, just someone like you who’s been hurt — sometimes by others but, more often, by my own failure to define what I deserve and to set clear boundaries.
Here’s the kicker though friends!
Boundaries don’t always have to be enforced with others; they often need to be enforced internally. No one knows our worth better than we do. So why do we let ourselves be undervalued?
Fear.
Fear of being alone, fear of losing out, fear of conflict. We let these fears run the show, all while knowing, deep down, that we deserve better. Take the example of not getting a raise at work — you might not be able to just quit. But when it comes to personal relationships or situations where effort isn’t being reciprocated, that’s where we have more control.
Let’s say you’re the one constantly initiating, planning, and showing up for someone, and yet it feels like you’re carrying all the weight of keeping the connection alive. You’re waiting, hoping they’ll start to match your energy, but it’s just not happening.
Here’s the hard truth.
When you stop putting in the effort and they fade away, it’s not rejection. It’s clarity. And saying, “No, this isn’t for me. I deserve better,” is you rejecting life’s distractions, not the other way around.
Life can be funny like that. It loves to throw distractions and side quests at us, often just to keep itself entertained. And while some of those side quests teach valuable lessons, others are pure time-wasters. The key to manifesting what you really want? Stop engaging in the pointless ones. When you stand firm in your boundaries, life gets the hint that it needs to stop messing with you.
So, stand tall in your worth. Walk away when it’s clear you deserve more, because the truth is: if you feel you deserve better, you do.
But here’s the catch — only you can hold yourself accountable to that. No one else is responsible for asserting those boundaries or upholding your worth but you.
